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Re: Communication Skills
« Reply #1 on: April 25, 2010, 05:02:16 AM »
You have two ears and one mouth, they are best used in that proportion.

Think before you open your mouth or put fingers to keyboard, feel also "what is my motivation"?

"If there is desire or hatred in your heart then do not move or make a sound, instead remain like a log"

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Re: Communication Skills
« Reply #2 on: April 25, 2010, 05:32:02 AM »
of course there is wholesome and unwholesome desire, "the paradox of becoming" as Ajahn Geoff puts it. e.g wholesome desire to get rid of faults and embrace virtues, to develop the path; the right and wrong questions to ask within that context, and the right and wrong times to ask them.

This might be worth considering too:
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This is inescapable, unavoidable. To achieve it is a completely conscious work. There is nothing mechanical in this process and it will not just “happen” to anyone. It comes as a matter of organizing our psyche.

We establish Psychological Equilibrium when we do not identify with any of the three brains. Therefore, know what they are, how they work, and in what manner you identify with them now. Discover this, and you will discover how to enter into Psychological Equilibrium. If you do not, you will remain as a “social” Gnostic, acting the part, but without the direct experience of the Truth.

It is a simple matter to recognize someone who is not in Psychological Equilibrium.

Those who are easily carried away by intellectual impulses are not in Psychological Equilibrium.

Those who are easily carried away by emotions are not in Psychological Equilibrium.

Those who are easily carried away by impulses of the motor, instinctive or sexual centers are not in Psychological Equilibrium.

Therefore, to establish Psychological Equilibrium requires that we are in conscious control of the impulses (resulting from impressions) that charge our three brains.

If we cannot control our three brains, we are not in Psychological Equilibrium.

If we are mechanically driven by impulses in our three brains, we are not in Psychological Equilibrium.

In order to receive the gift of the sacred fire, one must first be capable of consciously controlling the five centers.

This means that when a thought arrives, we can consciously discriminate it.

When an emotion arrives, we can consciously discriminate it.

When a sensation arrives, we can consciously discriminate it.

One must be able to maintain conscious control in the midst of terrible ordeals.

Someone who is an intellectual type of person has to learn how to open their own heart, to reject intellectualizing emotional things; they may face ordeals (for example) with a loved one, in which they must curb their mechanical intellectual reaction and respond consciously with emotion.

Someone who is an emotional type of person must learn how to control the impulses of their own heart, and may receive an ordeal (for example) in which they must control their anger at a apparent betrayal, and respond with calm and serene thoughtfulness.

The instinctive type must control their impulses and learn to act with logic and sincere awareness of their own emotions.

So you can see that to become the Fourth Type of person requires that we know our three brains; we must know our own psychological predisposition (whether we are a 1st, 2nd or 3rd type); we must know how our astrological sign adds to our mechanical tendencies and how we can work against them; and we must have a strong sense of which defects have the most power to carry us into mechanical behavior. And we must have the ability to consciously manage all of these factors in complete self-awareness and without the interference of intellectual, emotional, or impulsive reactions.

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You have two ears and one mouth, they are best used in that proportion.
i like that a lot... thanks a lot for the comments.
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