I've recently become very attached to my wife, I want to be with her all the time I love her showing me attention which I believe has become unhealthy. I've tried to observe thus emotional state with mindfulness but easily get caught back up. I understand I should accept what is true right now but I'm afraid it's going to start affecting my relationship. Is there a practice I can do to minimise attachment.
'Mindfulness' does not mean to simply observe & accept, without judging. In reality, mindfulness means to bring wisdom to experience; i.e., to 'remember' to apply Buddhist principles. Thus, mindfulness has been called 'the gatekeeper', which allows good things in & keeps harmful things out.
You must always remember (be mindful) a relationship is a mutual dependency & mutual interaction. It is about communication.
Therefore, always ask your wife what she wants.
Change your focus from what you want to what she wants. Then, both of you can live in tune & harmony with each other's needs & wants.
If you attach too much, are controlling, too demanding or too possessive, you will defeat your own purpose & burst your own dream.
The Buddha taught a relationship requires four qualities: (i) honest communication (
sacca); (ii) training in self-improvement (
dama); (iii) patience; forbearance (
khanti) ; & (iv) giving/sharing/sacrifice (
caga). Thus, in your situation, patience & giving/sharing/sacrifice is something you can train in for self-improvement.
Regards
