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Vipassana Meditation Forum => Meditation, Practice And The Path => Topic started by: Matthew on April 18, 2008, 07:28:30 PM

Title: Honesty off the cushion?
Post by: Matthew on April 18, 2008, 07:28:30 PM
Are you always honest with yourself? On the cushion, and off the cushion?

Self honesty and honesty with others is absolutely fundamental to progress on the path in my experience. However, our upbringing and cultural niceties teach most of us to be dishonest on a regular basis.

For example lets take the simple question "How are you?" in english or "Comment ça va?" en francais. How many times a day, worldwide do people lie in response to this question? Do you lie in response to this question?

I wrote a short poem about the subject in French:

Ça va?

Comment ça va?
Ça va.
Bah oui, il faut,
Mais, si non?
Quoi faire?
Sois honnête ? Dit « non » ?
Non. Ça ne va pas.
Lais-moi te dire quelque chose,
Très importante.
Si tu ne veux pas ecouter une vraie réponse,
C’est mieux que tu ne pose pas la question

English version:

How's it going?

How's it going?
I'm OK.
Well, yes, have to be don't you,
But what if it's not OK?
What to do?
Be honest? Say "No"?
No. That won't do.
Let me tell you something,
Very important.
If you do not want to hear the real answer,
It's better not to ask the question.

It's a very simple question and most of us probably lie in response to it on a frequent basis. I think this is important in regard to treading the path, this simple every day dishonesty we are so accustomed to.

What do you think? Are you honest 100%?

In the Dhamma,


Here is what google does with a german translation. Stefan ....

Wie es geht?

Wie es geht?
Ich bin OK.
Nun, ja, müssen Sie nicht,
Aber was ist, wenn es nicht in Ordnung?
Was ist zu tun?
Seien Sie ehrlich? "Nein" sagen?
Nein Das geht nicht.
Lassen Sie mich Ihnen sagen, etwas,
Sehr wichtig.
Wenn Sie nicht wollen, zu hören, die richtige Antwort,
Es ist besser, nicht zu fragen.
Title: Re: Honesty off the cushion?
Post by: Vipassana_Beginner on April 19, 2008, 04:17:34 PM
Yes, I Lie that I am fine. The reason is If I tell them, not fine, the person who asked me will think bad and feel insulted. I know when I ask my friend, one would give me the same answer.

I think rather than asking , "How are you?", I should ask, "do you need any help?". That way I would know how to make the other person happy. If one says no, the person is okay, if he says yes, I will help him and make the person fine.

Do you need any help? :-)

Vipassana Beginner.
Title: Re: Honesty off the cushion?
Post by: Matthew on April 19, 2008, 04:43:47 PM
We all need help.

In the Dhamma,


ps Except Tara. She is the helping hand of the universe in my opinion ;)