If its not tough it is not worth a thing!Keep on sitting instead!
Any way you seem to know it all mate! Dont you?
..... As for those who said I should start meditation now, I have to say, where I live now I couldn't find any teacher, and I heard doing it without any classes or teacher is wrong and maybe even dangerous, so for now I want to try some psychedelics. ......
Why not try a 10-day Vipassana course, they take place all over the world: www.dhamma.org
This is really quite delusional of you. You seriously believe that experimenting with meditation is more dangerous than experimenting with psychedelic drugs?
I had tried a few times and now I have a much better awareness about my body and found out quite a lot about my mind, don't know if its going to last though.
Quote from: Lokuttara on Thursday 09 September 2010, 12:43 PMWhy not try a 10-day Vipassana course, they take place all over the world: www.dhamma.orgthanks for the link Lokuttara, I found Vipassana meditation center in Iran, but it seems like they do not have classes anymore (or the page has not been updated since 2008), I will call them to know about it, although the location is still 250km away from my city, I will go for it if they have the classes. Quote from: The Irreverent Buddhist on Thursday 09 September 2010, 01:06 PMThis is really quite delusional of you. You seriously believe that experimenting with meditation is more dangerous than experimenting with psychedelic drugs?maybe i have been misguided by some people I thought they know what they are talking about. So you think it is safe and OK to try and practice meditation alone? (if i was unable to attend a class)if yes, then what guide do you recommend, should I start meditaion by a video, a book? what do you recommend as the starting point?thanks again everyone
Ultimately you really should work with a teacher if at all possible.But for now, there are books available freely online, such as this:http://books.google.com/books?id=M2S-7-lWzHIC&printsec=frontcover#v=onepage&q&f=false
Ultimately you really should work with a teacher if at all possible.
Panic attacks and traumas are all ingrained in our mind, dont you agree?As such they make our body release stress hormones making us feel even worse (fight-flight), right?If such feelings persist for long enough time it can develope paranoia (in my case it did)Learn to calm your body totaly so it stops releasing stress hormones and start releasing "happy" hormones instead :-)At the same time while calming your body with each in and outbreath you will as all of us do, experiance all sorts of thoughts, emotions, sensations.These distractions are the part of your conditioned ego-self which tend to separate the universe into desires and aversions and all that because of fear :-)Do not get involved into the mind game but gently notice them and let them wash away on their own accord like the wave off of the beach. Gentlyturn back to calming your body with each in and out-breath.Do not focus on anything, do not focus on your nose, nor your belly nor the body nor symbols nor reiki, nor angels or kundalini ... nothing :-) you hear me ;-)To make sure you are not focusing on anything keep your eye lids closed but gently and bring your concious awareness into the eye balls and keep your calm yet relaxed awareness in there and stop the eye lids from moving. From this point you can sense all what is going on in your body and in your mind without getting involved into mind scenarios and ideas. If you get involved please return back to the eye balls, but not focusing just gently keeping your eye balls still and awake, not forcing a thing.It is to be expacted that ego will throw all kinds of crap at you but be ready for it and keep relaxing your body, eye balls being part of that body of course.Do not control your breathing. If your belly feels hard or stiff you are controling it. Please make sure you are breathing in then out and after the outbreath there is a few seconds natural pause before you breath in again OK :-)Do not engage into this meditation intelectualy but actualy stay with everything that Is taking place and with compasion towards your conditioned self (do not hate it do not judge it do not analise it) keep calming your body which Is storing all that ego crap and is able to release it via calmness and mindfulness.I tried meditating at diferent time intervals (10minutes to one hour) but for the body to actualy release the calming hormones (serotonin) takes (for me) about 35-40 minutes. Only after approx 35 minutes do I feel the deep calm taking place. This is an awake state of mind and thoughts kind of stay on the outside having very little importance to the concious me. The thoughts and emotions kind of became separate and do calm down on their own.This deep relaxed feeling stays with me during the whole day :-)With such feeling body has chance to re-balance itself and we are gaining mindfulnes, becoming more aware of who we realy are, what realy takes place in side of our conditioned self.Suddenly I come to realise that this chatering self is not me at all.I am not saying start sitting for 45 minutes at once :-) no. Start with as much as you can at first and work your way up to 45 minutes to an hour to reap the benefits of deep relaxation :-)It took me seven month to get to this stage but I can tell it sure is worth it :-)It is about being compasionate towards your conditioned self, calming your body, being mindful of all that is taking place in your mind without clinging to it or rejecting it.Do not forgett keeping your eye balls still and every now and then if you get your self cought up in a mind scenario relax all your facial muscles and your shoulders. Keep your back streight.I am only a PM away if you need to talk. Such mindful calm abiding meditation can bring up lots of emotional crap and it is good if you can have friends to talk to, write to :-) just to went a bit.I hope you dont mind me writing this publicly since I feel other might also benefit from this info but I will aslo answer your PM tomorrow morning afeter my meditation session :-)p.s. do not take this meditation as something fancy or special to do :-) instead see it as a mind hygiene :-) The same way you take time to shower or groom your hair so do take time to clense your mind via minfulness and relaxed body OK :-) For best result do it every day. I prefer mornings. I get up earlier than my wife so not to get distracetd, but even those distraction do not matter anymore once the deep relaxation takes place. These days I can meditate while my wife vacuums the floor LoLRemain relaxed, remain mindful
Alone is best. Especially if you can go somewhere into the mountains or a forest. Follow your breath. Sit in a secluded place, Sit on a cushion if it helps with legs loosely crossed and spine supported and upright. Tuck in your chin a bit and lift your head gently.Relax your belly and chest. Breath in sensitive to the feeling of your body as you breath - focussing your attention on the whole body and relaxing the whole body. At the end of the natural breath you will breathe in - focus your attention on the body and relax the body. Keep going. When thoughts arise try not to follow them or push them away. Be a disinterested watcher as they fade away and return the attention to the sensation of the body as you breathe and relaxing the body. Let your mind calm peacefully. Start with 20 minutes once or twice a day and see how you get on. After you shower in the morning is good (I recommend stretching before you get out of bed for health sake btw). Evening not too close to dinner nor bedtime is ideal. Search the forum for meditation timer and you'll find a post with some mp3 timers in.You have to travel the path alone in the end so why trouble yourself to go 250 clicks for something you can do at home.As the Buddha would say, don't believe me, but try it and see if your reason agrees with it when you have experimented.I definitely recommend this approach above the idea of books.Warm regards,Matthew
QuoteUltimately you really should work with a teacher if at all possible.I find our administrator Matthew (The Irreverent Buddhist) being a very good teacher, in my experiance that Is!Here you can follow my path since the March 12th this year;http://www.vipassanaforum.net/forum/index.php/topic,711.105.htmlHere is something I wrote to a friend on another forum, she asked me to explain her how to meditate;